As we enter the Week 4 of lockdown I can’t help but think of how our being together as a couple is feeling right now. Whilst I am experiencing a strong sense of safety and comfort as my husband and I spend all this time together in one space, I can’t help but feel that spending all this time together is somewhat thwarting the novelty of being a couple. Don’t get me wrong I love my husband I need to breathe. I am reminded of the paradox of our needs in long-term committed partnerships. That is, for many of us, we have contrasting longings for familiarity and novelty, security and adventure. So, if like me you are experiencing far more familiarity, and less novelty in your relationship, maybe this week we can navigate together five ways in which to regain our individuality and reclaim our self-care.